Spark Over Struggle (Part 2): What Your Identity Wobble Is Really Trying to Tell You
In my last post, Spark Over Struggle (Part 1): When Authenticity Becomes the Strategy, I wrote about the moment you begin to feel a quiet internal shift — when effort starts to feel heavy, and spark starts to feel like truth.
What often comes next is less talked about.
There’s a moment in every personal transformation where you feel caught between who you used to be and who you’re becoming. It doesn’t mean you’re going backward. It doesn’t mean you’re confused. It means you’re experiencing what is known as an identity wobble — the internal adjustment that happens right before your next level locks in.
It’s the moment where your new identity is already true, but your old identity still has enough momentum to echo its familiar lines.
And those echoes feel real:
old fears
old survival logic
old beliefs resurfacing
old “play it safe” narratives
old patterns trying to reassert themselves
This wobble isn’t a setback.
It’s a sign of growth — and more importantly, a sign of awareness.
Because once you start living from the seat of the observer, the universe stops whispering and starts spotlighting:
Patterns stand out.
Synchronicities get louder.
Inner contradictions become impossible to ignore.
And recently, I had one of those moments where clarity hit me like a bell ringing through my entire body:
Spark over struggle.
Three simple words.
One complete identity shift.
Spark vs. Struggle: The Core of Every Identity Shift
Your old identity runs on struggle:
pushing
performing
doing what feels “responsible”
choosing safety over truth
operating from fear of “what if?”
Your new identity runs on spark:
inspiration
clarity
flow
expansion
the sense that something is moving through you
aligned action that feels natural rather than forced
Every time I step into my new identity — writing, coaching, creating — I feel open and alive.
Every time I slip toward the old one, I feel tight, compressed, and contracted.
That contrast is the wobble.
And the wobble is just your nervous system learning that it’s safe to be someone new.
Choosing spark doesn’t mean forcing movement.
It means orienting toward what’s alive — and letting action follow clarity, not pressure.
The Old Identity May Ride Shotgun… But It Doesn’t Get to Drive
Here’s the truth about old beliefs:
They don’t disappear instantly.
They just lose authority.
Awareness doesn’t erase the past — it removes its power.
At some point in the wobble, you realize:
The old identity may still be riding shotgun…
but it doesn’t get to drive anymore.
It can comment.
It can whisper its old survival stories.
It can try to point out the “safer” route.
But it no longer has access to the steering wheel.
You do.
And the moment you know that, the wobble stops feeling like danger and starts feeling like recalibration.
A Story About GPS, Wrong Turns, and Awareness
This identity wobble reminds me of a trip my daughter and I took to Ohio a very long time ago — long before Google Maps existed.
We had one of the very first GPS devices, and it had a hilarious (and slightly stressful) habit of waiting until the exact last second to tell you when to turn.
We missed one of our exits.
Then another.
Possibly a third.
(Side note: we may have set a family record for the longest drive to Ohio.)
But the GPS didn’t panic.
It didn’t shame us.
It didn’t declare the journey ruined.
It simply paused and announced:
Recalculating.
We turned around.
Found the highway again.
Kept going.
And eventually — because we were aware of the missed turn — we made it.
Awareness is what gets you back on the road.
Awareness is what shifts your identity.
Awareness is what creates forward momentum.
Awareness is what tells you:
You’re not lost — you’re just recalibrating toward the life you actually want.
This Is the Moment You Choose Spark Over Struggle
Your wobble isn’t an obstacle.
It’s a sign that you’re evolving.
It means your new identity is activating.
It means your old patterns are losing power.
It means you’re becoming aware of the turn in real time.
In other words:
You’re not going backward.
You’re moving forward with greater consciousness.
And from this place — from awareness, clarity, and truth — you get to choose:
Spark over struggle.
Every time.
Because expansion isn’t found in the familiar.
It’s found in the spark that lights you up from the inside out.
And if you feel like you’re in that exact moment…
where the old you and the emerging you both have their hands on the wheel…
where the patterns are loud but the spark is louder…
You don’t have to navigate that turn alone.
A Clarity Call isn’t where we do the deep work — it’s where we determine whether we’re the right fit, and what direction your next level is truly pointing you toward.
It’s a space to check your inner coordinates before you commit to the next turn.
If you’re ready to choose spark over struggle, book a Clarity Call, and together we’ll make sure you’re aligned with the identity meant to take the wheel.
With clarity,
